So my kid has reached a new level of infuriating today. She's developed the ability to throw purposeful fits in an attempt to get what she wants. Fits have been a longstanding problem for us. BAD fits. HOUR long, horrible fits. They are a symptom of our issues and are usually symbolic of a larger, unresolved, issue that sometimes SHE isn't even sure of. Usually she gets out of control of herself. She literally cannot cognatively control her behavior until we hit a breaking point. I can brush her and it helps and then we hit the crying portion and at some point we talk and I can play "Let Guess The Problem". After that a solution is come up with and after some bouncing and more brushing, the world is once again happy.
TODAY, that is sooo not what we had. Today she had a willful fit in an attempt to get out of something - specifically subtraction. The truly awkward part? She LOVES math. Adores it. Then decided she wasn't going to do it. She then attempted to mimic her "normal" pattern. But, given that she's.. HER.. it was an epic fail. Not even a close representation. She told me what she was going to do, ie "I'm going to run of in 3 seconds, Momma, I'm going to ruuuun off. Momma. 1. 2. 3." Then was surprised when I told her to sit herself back down!
So after a rather lengthy ordeal that went on, and on, and well.. on. I talked to T1 about why she would suddenly think it was ok to try to have a fit to get what she wanted or get out of something. She then told me that she has her therapists (her OT and behavioral) convinced that it should work that way. Apparently, this coming week when I see these ladies (who have been working wonders with her) and asking them to STOP catering to these little "episodes".
But you know what fixes most bad days, even when they keep going and going?? Cuddling with a Super Puppy :)
Messing up as I go along.
Showing posts with label listening therapy. Show all posts
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Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
Lego Club
In about an hour, we are leaving for our first visit to our Homeschool Group's Lego Club. It meets once a month and while we *could* have gone last year, we never actually made it. There was the broken foot, the torn tendon, bronchitis a bajillion times, therapies, mood issues and whatever else. BUT. Here we are. It's at a time and a place we CAN and ARE going to. T1 is vibrating with anxiety. Literally vibrating. I know there will be some people we've met before and probably a person or 2 we haven't. Most likely, it will be small and fairly quiet - which makes it a perfect first gathering for us to go to for the year for the Homeschool Group.
This is also one of those time when brushing is really, REALLY, *really*, (can I stress **REALLY** again), handy. I have no idea exactly how it works. (Something about deep tissue then compression of the joints helps delay endorphin release..) She went from vibrating to being able to sit and color. Wiggling - Yes. Literally bouncing off walls with anxiety, borderline uncontrollable so she will spin into "fit" mode - No! Score! We will have to do it again in an hour when we are getting ready to leave, but I'm willing to do that if she can control herself after it. *THIS* is why we homeschool. We (*I*) can give her the therapy she needs when she NEEDS it, as she needs it. And it's starting to work. Brushing is one of the biggest control techniques we've introduced so far. The listening program was HUGE. I need to reintroduce that right about now too though. She starting to become more sensitive again. Brushing, though. It's HUGE. It's been worth every miserable day of doing it every 2 hours with that insane timer (that we still have beeping every 2 hours BTW). It means we *may* actually be able to get through Lego Club without a complete meltdown. I'll still bring earplugs, her brush, her ish (her lovey that she rubs across her face), and the normal things I bring in case we need them, but hopefully we can go out for a 2 hour low key club with "normal" homeschool kids and be unscathed. Maybe, I can talk to another grownup without having to stand nearby and be ready to catch my kid getting ready to leap at something in a full fury because the other kid changed a "rule". Ok. That may be a bit ambitious still. But, maybe, she can come and ask what's going on and let me explain that the "rule" is different BEFORE she gets to fury land.
This is also one of those time when brushing is really, REALLY, *really*, (can I stress **REALLY** again), handy. I have no idea exactly how it works. (Something about deep tissue then compression of the joints helps delay endorphin release..) She went from vibrating to being able to sit and color. Wiggling - Yes. Literally bouncing off walls with anxiety, borderline uncontrollable so she will spin into "fit" mode - No! Score! We will have to do it again in an hour when we are getting ready to leave, but I'm willing to do that if she can control herself after it. *THIS* is why we homeschool. We (*I*) can give her the therapy she needs when she NEEDS it, as she needs it. And it's starting to work. Brushing is one of the biggest control techniques we've introduced so far. The listening program was HUGE. I need to reintroduce that right about now too though. She starting to become more sensitive again. Brushing, though. It's HUGE. It's been worth every miserable day of doing it every 2 hours with that insane timer (that we still have beeping every 2 hours BTW). It means we *may* actually be able to get through Lego Club without a complete meltdown. I'll still bring earplugs, her brush, her ish (her lovey that she rubs across her face), and the normal things I bring in case we need them, but hopefully we can go out for a 2 hour low key club with "normal" homeschool kids and be unscathed. Maybe, I can talk to another grownup without having to stand nearby and be ready to catch my kid getting ready to leap at something in a full fury because the other kid changed a "rule". Ok. That may be a bit ambitious still. But, maybe, she can come and ask what's going on and let me explain that the "rule" is different BEFORE she gets to fury land.
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